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Why Loving Your Imperfect Home Is Important

I have an imperfect home. Do you?

It’s no secret that I have a lot of work to do on my house. It is far, far, FAR from being perfect and magazine worthy, or even blog worthy most days. You may see snapshots of a few things here and there that may look somewhat put together, but the truth is, I am extremely critical of my home and very selective about what I share. Anyone out there with me?

Having a blog forced me to be this way. I got used to sharing only the pretty, nice, and sometimes slightly staged pictures of my life – though I do try to keep it pretty real with you all, especially on Instagram! You have to learn love the imperfections, though, because they are a very important part of any home!

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My husband asked me not too long ago if I was unhappy with our home because he often finds me staring at things, thinking about how I need to change something or fix it or replace it… I was surprised he asked me that, but I understood where he was coming from because I do this a LOT! I’m not unhappy with my house. I love this little tiny home that we get to call ours, despite the fact that I constantly redesign it in my mind!

The very next day I found myself staring at my kitchen and smiling with non-critical eyes. So that’s where I’m going to focus today, because this is the most used and arguably most important room in our whole house! A lot happens in this kitchen – cooking, cleaning, working, dancing, serious conversations, entertaining, DIY projects, playing with Luther… We do a LOT of living in our kitchen!

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BECAUSE YOU ONCE FELL IN LOVE WITH IT

Take some time to go back to what made you fall in love with your home. I thought about this kitchen the very first time I ever saw it, and remembered thinking it was small, but useful. It was peach and yellow, but it was warm (and not just because of the colours).

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I thought back to how we painted our cupboards, very imperfectly, and how happy it made me to see them white. For some reason, seeing the peach inside doesn’t bother me. It never has. I kind of like having that memory of what was before.

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BECAUSE IT’S WELL LIVED IN

It’s impossible to have a perfect house. Paint will peel, things will get dirty, and you might even break stuff. It’s just stuff. I mean, really… I can’t even count the number of times I have to wipe this area of the kitchen because Luther’s wet nose is constantly in the blinds. He occasionally spills dirt on the floor, too (which you can see in both pictures he’s in, if you look closely). If I got upset about this every time he did it, we wouldn’t be friends. Period.

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I always told myself I wouldn’t have stuff on my fridge – I mean on the door and on the top of it. It turns out that having stuff on your fridge, like a grocery list and pen, is actually kind of convenient, and that dead space up top is great for stuff I don’t want on the counter all the time. It’s not pretty, but it makes my kitchen that much more useful to me.

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BECAUSE IT’S YOURS, AND NO ONE ELSE’S

I could sit here and compare my kitchen to my neighbour’s, or to a magazine, or to another blogger’s… but that is a surefire way to make myself very unhappy. Remember the thing I told you about only showing the good stuff? And slightly staged settings? You can’t compare your life to that. Even if you could, comparison will never bring you any satisfaction. Just trust me on this one. 

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BECAUSE A LOT OF WORK LOVE HAS GONE INTO IT

From the little things to the big things, every time I do something for my home, I do it with love because I know it’ll bring me joy every time I see it. Painting kitchen cupboards is something I hope never to do again, but sometimes I open these doors and mentally high-five myself for doing it. No lie. I do.

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BECAUSE THE IMPERFECTIONS DON’T ACTUALLY MATTER

Seriously. Seriously. If something is bothering you so much – like that time I lived with a towel bar that moved every time I used a tea towel, but didn’t do anything about it for 2 years – fix it! Otherwise, just don’t sweat it. You’re just gonna get more grey hairs and then you won’t have all those warm and fuzzy feelings about your home anymore, and you need to go back to those. Often!

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Oh and if you’re wondering if these pictures are staged, ummm no. They’re not. I just told you there’s dirt on the floor. The stainless steel top is all smudged. I literally just decided one morning that I needed to show you my real kitchen, so here it is! This is how it is. Right here. Except the stove top isn’t always clean and sometimes there is a dog bone on the floor.

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Do I really need to give you more than 5 reasons? Wait, do I need to give myself more than 5 reasons? 

I’d be lying if I said I wrote this post solely for you. I wrote it mostly for me. Because I need to remember to love my home more, to appreciate it more, and to look at it with a smile on my face more often. My house is filled with imperfections. I don’t love all of them, but I can whole heartedly say that I do love my home and I’m so very thankful for it each and every day. You with me?




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10 Comments

  • Reply Danica

    I think so many times we as home owners forget how fortunate we are to be just that “home owners”. There are so many people out there who can only dream about taking that step.

    Then there are people like us who follow other bloggers with large social media platforms that are constantly posting pictures of their perfect home. Sometimes you sit back and wonder is everything really perfect in that home, you never know what happens behind the scenes right.

    I struggle with the “perfect looking lives” that so many others have and whenever these thoughts come into my mind I very quickly remind myself how lucky I really am. There is a lot of good that happens in my surroundings that I feel don’t need to be shared.

    HAHA and this comment was sort of all over the place but eh….just like my home situation right now eh ;)

    February 9, 2015 at 9:41 am
    • Reply Thalita

      I love this, Danica! You’re so right. We forget we’re lucky to have homes, and at the end of the day the stuff that fills our homes isn’t important because it’s pretty. The people, the memories, the love… Those are important. Not the pretty things! It’s too easy to get caught up in the perfection when we see it all the time – especially as bloggers!

      February 9, 2015 at 10:20 am
  • Reply Steph

    This is a great reminder. We’ve been in our house for just 7 months now, and had a baby 10 days after moving in, so things have been slooow going in the decorating department. I have a huge list of things I want to do here and sometimes it bothers me that it’s going to take so long to get it all done.
    BUT, there is so much great stuff about our house and what happens in it day to day. I feel blessed that we were even in a position to own a home and it’s kind of more fun doing things slowly because I can take my time to make sure it’s what I really want.
    Sometimes it bothers me when I compare our imperfect home to magazine worthy homes, but then I try to remind myself that there’s fun to be had in making my house what I think it can be. Thanks for this post :)

    February 9, 2015 at 10:18 am
    • Reply Thalita

      I think your second sentence says it all – had a baby 10 days after moving in! A list just can’t compete with a baby, now can it?
      I totally agree with the joy of doing it slowly. The more you live in your home, the more you understand what you want and need!
      I’m so glad you enjoyed the post!!! :)

      February 17, 2015 at 7:06 pm
  • Reply Tara

    I love this post, Thalita!

    You’re so right when you talk about how comparison can rob you of your joy. We’re so “plugged in” that I think that we lose sight of what we’ve created. My house has SUCH a long to-do list; it is sometimes overwhelming. But I have to remember what I do love about it – where my sweat equity has gone… Thanks for this. I needed to read it. :)

    February 10, 2015 at 1:46 am
    • Reply Thalita

      Thanks so much, Tara!!

      It’s especially hard for bloggers, I think. I’m constantly playing the comparison game, and it’s a slippery slope! So glad you liked the post. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!! :)

      February 17, 2015 at 7:10 pm
  • Reply Veronica

    Wow, this post really hit home.. I have recently been debating on starting a blog to share all the awesome things I’ve learned from awesome bloggers like you but have always felt like my house isn’t ready for the blog world….I know it’s just me that isn’t ready for the blog world.. The thought of everything having to be perfect or make sense… It’s been a constant debate in my head.. I love our home, especially since it’s our first home, and with all the imperfections, I really need to learn to love it more… thanks for keeping it real :)

    May 7, 2015 at 2:02 pm
    • Reply Thalita

      Nothing makes me happier than when a post of mine triggers something (hopefully positive) in someone, and keeping it real is such an important part of that! Don’t ever think you or your home aren’t ready for a blog. All you have to do is look at any post of mine from 2012 or 2013 and you’ll see terrible lighting, phone pictures, and frankly, not much else. I think about removing them all the time, but that’s part of my story and my journey, so I keep them. The best piece of advice I can give you is this: just start. You don’t have to publish your blog, but write posts, take pictures, and just start! When you’re a bit more ready, then publish it and blow us all away! Decorating and learning from your first home is such a unique and amazing experience (I know, I’m still there), and it’s so awesome to be able to go back and look at those pictures and read those thoughts years later. You won’t regret chronicling your journey, I can promise you that! All the best, and please feel free to ask questions ANY time! xo

      May 10, 2015 at 8:37 pm
  • Reply Katie

    Hi, I came across your blog and I absolutely love your white dishes showcased above your sink. I have been looking for white dishes like this and I would love to know the brand and where you got them. Thanks!

    July 30, 2015 at 9:15 pm
    • Reply Thalita

      Hey Katie! The dishes are made by Royal Doulton, it’s the Gordon Ramsey line, and it’s actually a pretty affordable set! Also, I’ve had them for 3 years, and they have lasted beautifully so far. I got it at Hudson’s Bay (because I’m Canadian), but I believe they’re available at most department stores if you happen to live elsewhere! I hope that helps!!

      July 30, 2015 at 9:26 pm

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