The Truth Is…

Hey there friends! I hope you’re ready for a wordy and image-less post. It seems like I’m back. I mean, I’m posting a DIY project and a guest post all within a week, and now here I am, posting on a Sunday! It’s kind of amazing because lately it feels like The Learner Observer has been on the back-burner, and that’s not a good place to be, you know?! There are some good reasons for it though, and no they are not excuses. It’s just that real life happens sometimes – yes, even bloggers have real lives! I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. 

After we came back from our trip, I felt quite jet lagged for what seemed like ages, but was really about 5 days. My body just could not get back to Toronto time and wanted to stay on Paris time forever. Can you blame it? No, me either. Anyway, after I got back on my feet, I realized I was a bit busy. Teaching has been busier as the Spring arrives and with it more workshops and school trips, which means substitutes like me are needed even more. It’s a good thing. A GREAT thing, actually… but it means blogging comes second, and some days after being with kids all day long, my brain can’t just go into DIY/writing/Pinterest/blogging mode!

The truth is…

Things are going really well.

No, this is not me bragging to you about my life!

Please understand that when bad things happen, I share them with you. When good things happen, I share them with you. Because you’re all like my BFFs and that’s for good times and bad times, right? 

So here’s what’s up. Since getting that writing gig over at Decoist (which I love love love so freaking much because it’s WAY fun to do research on Pinterest and then write all about it), a few other things have happened. I have been asked to guest post on several blogs, which I won’t reveal now, but will let you see them when I post about them here. It’s super exciting because I love being able to share my love for all of the amazingness on the internet!

The other thing that happened is I started writing for LC Living. This felt extra super exciting for me because it’s a Canadian site for a Canadian store and I just loooove representin’ for good ol’ Canada! I’ll get to shoot some Linen Chest product, try some stuff out and post about it on their blog. Pretty awesome. There’s a lonely post there right now, but more to come shortly.

The last thing is brand spankin’ new and also kind of crazy and thrilling. I’m a contributor over at Remodelaholic. I seriously can’t even believe I just typed those words because, I mean, pinch me! I guest posted for them a little while back about my kitchen hutch makeover and when I got the email asking to be a consistent contributor over the next few months, I squealed in excitement. You may not see my name on the contributors page just yet, and my first post won’t go live until June, so you just have to take my word for it that it’s real, alright?

The truth is…

Things are going really well.

This stuff is all kind of crazy, and what it means is that I have been spending some time reading and writing a lot of emails, getting myself acquainted with a new schedule, new writing expectations and balancing it all. It feels like I’m juggling about 4 blogging balls up in the air while riding around on a unicycle, that unicycle being my life. I can’t fall off and I can’t let the balls drop. Sometimes this feels like it’s all super fun, and sometimes it feels like “whoa, somebody grab that ball!”

I am as happy as one can be about all this juggling. I just wanted to share it with you and help you understand the lack of posts and why responding to comments is taking longer than usual! I’m also still trying to read as many of my favourite blogs as possible, making my blogging buddies #1 and making sure I comment and show them love as often as I can, which is like once a week on Friday nights. That’s right… I read blogs and watch Mad Men or House. FOR FUN!

In the spirit of honesty, though, I have to say that blogging less on my own blog and seeing my readership stats slowly getting lower and lower is kind of a blow to the ego. Bloggers talk about numbers all the time – either about how they matter so very much or about how they don’t. I don’t check my stats every day. In fact, I didn’t even notice a decline until I did check and thought something was seriously wrong because it was about half of what my average number of visitors used to be when I was posting regularly 3 times a week and promoting myself like crazy on social media and link parties. I guess all that hard work was paying off, or I was just getting one-time visits and now my regular peeps are just checking in on me to see if I’m still around. When I think of it that way, I feel good. It’s nice to know that even if the numbers are lower, people are still reading old posts or just popping by the homepage. I feel the love, I really do. 

I really just hope that I’m not a giant blogging disappointment and that I’m doing the right thing by doing what I love to do – both in my personal life and in my career. The personal life part is blogging because it’s a hobby, most definitely not a major source of income and certainly not something I can consider as a career choice at the moment. My career path is teaching. As a substitute teacher I am lucky to be busy and teach consistently at schools that I love, with students whom I have come to know and adore, though that is not the case every day. It’s a hard thing to do, it can be uncertain, there’s a lot of judging that happens on a daily basis and people aren’t always nice to you. It’s a lot like blogging, actually. So in my personal hobby and my professional career I feel this constant pressure. At first I crumbled beneath it, then I chose to ignore it, and now I choose to see the good in it. When people say “I’m sorry you don’t have your own classroom yet” or when my stats show a lower than what I’m used to number of readers, I don’t pity myself.

The truth is…

Things are going really well.

I’m incredibly blessed to have a job. Period.

I’m incredibly blessed to have my blog. Period.

And I really mean that! No I don’t love them both 100% of the time, but I love them both enough to know that I have nothing to complain about. I have met teachers and students who have helped to shape who I am as an educator, which is something you can’t put a price tag on. I could write a whole book on that alone because this shaping happens each and every single day and it. is. awesome! I have met bloggers who have helped me see that it is possible to make friends online who ‘get me’ and to have community even from afar. They have shaped who I am as an individual and as a blogger, and I’m forever indebted to those people who also do this for me on a daily basis. This is also awesome.

Life is not perfect. Ever. I am not drawing you a picture of someone who has it all together because that is so far from the truth. I just see and hear so much negativity – both in my work and blogging circles – and I’m kind of over it. I think that if we took some time to celebrate one another a little bit more in everyday life, in every aspect, in little and in big ways, we could be a whole lot happier. 

This quote has been shared a few times now on Instagram and a few other blog posts, and I just need to share it too.

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And I leave you with that. And an insane amount of love and hugs for being the coolest people on the planet and reading my insignificant, tiny little blog. I love you like crazy!

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Comments

  1. “I really just hope that I’m not a giant blogging disappointment and that I’m doing the right thing by doing what I love to do – both in my personal life and in my career.”

    Thalita, as both a regular reader of yours and a friend, I can ASSURE you without a shadow of a doubt that you are not a blogging disappointment. Not even close. You are TOTALLY doing the right thing both personally and career-wise, and as you said, “things are going well.”

    I think that sometimes, progress looks different in different seasons of life. For you, right now, progress might not be in the numbers, but rather in these new opportunities and guest posts that are cropping up (contributor at Remodeloholic?! Eeek!). And what I’m trying to remind myself is that sometimes slowing down and doing less is essential in order to pace yourself for the race ahead. Because like you, I really do love this blogging biz and the community I’ve found through it; it’s something that means a lot to me. But we also have other things that mean a lot to us (God, teaching, husband, furry friends, church, family)…and we can’t always juggle all the balls all at the same time. Some need a little rest, and while it kills me sometimes to think that I may need to step back from something I love, I also need to remember where my priorities are.

    I’ll wrap this novella of a comment up with a favorite quote from one of my favorite professors at Wheaton, Dr. Davis: “Start with passion and your work will always succeed.” By nature, you are a passionate person, so, Thalita, you can never and will never be a disappointment to us. And you can take that to the bank!

    • Lauren, you are so right. And I appreciate your kind and supportive words SO very much because you’ve been such an instrumental part of this blogging life. Progress does look different, sometimes even on a day to day basis and I’m slowly starting to accept the things that are beyond my control, and also that there are other things that need our undivided attention, as you mentioned.
      I love that quote! And thank you again for being such a firm Thalita support system. Sending you mad love!

  2. You are awesome! I realized a long time ago that I will probably never make any money on the blog but I will make some pretty cool friends. You do whats best for you! Branko taught me a long time ago that I need to always put “ME” first and everybody else second! So much stress in this world with everybody worrying about what everybody else will think about them. It’s time for people to take a step back and really be just thankful for everything they have and not worry so much about other people!

    • Well I’m sure neither of us started a blog to be rich!! The community and the friendships have been the best part of it all, and a peek I didn’t expect when I started. You’re totally right (so is Branko) and you, my dear, are also awesome :)

  3. I really love this post Thalita. First, because your positive, optimistic attitude shines through and secondly because you are doing what feels right to you. I think we bloggers have been brainwashed a bit into believing that success lies only in the numbers or the dollars. But a blog where you have a dedicated and supportive and engaged audience is so so valuable too. You attract readers because of who you are which is amazing and should never be considered tiny or a disappointment.

    Congratulations on all the writing gigs. That is well deserved and I look forward to seeing your writing around the web.

  4. First of all, Thalita: you could NEVER be a disappointment, blogging or otherwise! You are much too wonderful and kind and loving for that.
    Second of all, my lovely friend: life happens. And when it’s happening in such wonderfully exciting ways as it’s happening to you right now, even better! But we’re all human, and the people who aren’t okay with that should just shove off.
    Third (I’M IN LIST-MAKING MODE AAAAH), this post made me think of a quote I read recently:
    “Before I am your daughter,
    your sister,
    your aunt, niece, or cousin,
    I am my own person,
    and I will not set fire to myself
    to keep you warm.”
    – Elizabeth Gracely
    In this case, we should probably add “Before I am the writer of a blog you read” – it’s so easy to forget that, really, we have no obligations to anyone but ourselves when it comes to how much we give or don’t give.
    And fourth(ly?!), I love you, and I love your blog, and I am SOso proud and happy for you & all your new endeavors <3
    I'll stop with the list-making now.

    • This is single handedly my most favourite list EVER! Thanks so much for being so kind and supportive and amazing!!!! I love that quote, and you are absolutely right about our obligations! Also, I love you right back, you incredible girl!

  5. Enjoy it all and don’t forget to breathe. There are all kinds of things I was thinking as I was reading this post. But in a nutshell, you rock and I am SO happy for you, Thalita! I am glad I ever looked up terrariums on the Internet :) Whether you continue this blog, do other projects, or become famous with your own TV show someday, I will always be a fan. <3

    • Oh Meggie, you are so insanely sweet! I, too, am SO glad that you looked up terrariums! Oh and I’m not holding out for a TV show hahaha that would be interesting… ;)

  6. Thank you for sharing such a brave and beautiful truth!!!!!! You’re right, we need to start supporting one another instead of comparing ourselves and obsessing over what we haven’t achieved yet, right? Congratulations on all the amazing opportunities that are coming your way! You deserve all the goodness in the world. Whether it’s here on the LO or other amazing websites we will continue to follow you’re writing and musings on home decorating because you are amazing, inspiring, and so incredibly talented at what you do!!!!! XOXO

    • Lish you are the bestest!!! I love hearing your voice through these awesome comments and feeling the warmth and love all the way from the Yukon! Your support is greatly appreciated my dearest. Especially because you have been doing so and encouraging me to keep going since day 1, not just in this but in everything. Love your face!

  7. I hear you loud and clear, my friend. Loud. And. Clear. I have been struggling a lot lately to balance juggle all of the balls I’ve got in the air… many self-imposed. But, to the point of Lauren’s professor’s quote, a lot of them are my passions, and I wouldn’t drop those for the world. I completely get that even when things are going well, life can feel crazy and even the things you love doing can take a backseat. Like how I’m commenting on this post 11 days after it was written. You’re always at the top of my to-read list, but sometimes I only get to read and catch up once a week, or every two weeks, or whatever. You get it. You’re juggling, too :)
    I’ll stop rambling and say HOLY COW! CONGRATS! on your amazing contributor opportunities! I know you’re going to wow all of us, and all of those new audiences and readers you’ll reach. And as long as the pursuit of these opportunities is feeding your passion and creativity, go. for. it! Your friends in blogland will be cheering you on, every step of the way ;)

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